heyya. ok so i finished my essay and passed it up. hopefully it's ok. it's not that great but i'm somehow proud of it cause i don't think i have ever written an essay this long. no wait, I've never so yea this is the first.
What being a friend means to me
A friend. It is one of the most wonderful gifts someone could give or receive. Generally, a friend is a person whom one knows, trusts and loves spending time with. I’m sure all of us have a friend or to be more specific, friends. We all have a group of people we hang around with at school and eventually start going out for movies, sleepovers and birthday parties together. In life we are going to meet many people but only a friend stays with you till the very end. There are some of us who actually have misconceptions on what a friend means. We tend think that people whom we meet and smile at everyday is our friend but these people are merely just an acquaintance. An acquaintance is someone who you greet and sometimes spend time with but if given a choice you would rather be doing something else. Like a new classmate or someone on the street that you’re used to seeing every day. Many of us find it easy to make friends but to be honest, I find it to be one of the hardest things to do. It’s like I have a phobia of making friends because whenever I go somewhere and meet new people, I find it extremely hard to mingle with them and start accepting them as my friend. No, I’m not anti-social or whatever, I just find the meaning of a friend a little different from others.
To me, a friend is someone who makes me smile for no reason, someone I can be myself around without caring the least on how I look or how stupid I am around them. Someone who accepts me for who I am and not trying to change me to something I’m not. Those are the people I want to spend my time with because what’s the point of hanging around with people who in the end of the day are going to talk behind your back or try changing you to be just like them. Sad to say that there are some people who go to desperate measures trying to change themselves in every way possible just to feel accepted by their so called group of friends but what they don’t realize is that you don’t have to change yourself to be accepted, all you have to do is find someone who will accept you just the way you are.
A friend is also someone whom I can count on. Someone who says that they will always be there no matter what and actually means it because in life you’re going to come across many people who are going to acknowledge you as their friend and promise to do many things but there are only going to be a few who will actually do it whole heartedly without regretting what they said and start whining about it. Most importantly, a friend is someone who is willing to sit back and listen to every single word you say and doesn’t judge you but corrects you and stands by you no matter what or whom they’re going to have to go against because your happiness means a lot to them.
Besides all the being there when you need them and accepting you for who you are, being a friend can also mean fun. I mean come on, who else would you rather spend your time talking on the phone for hours about anything and everything not caring at all on how high your phone bill is going to go and who else can you spend the whole day with doing nothing but still think it was fun. We all got to agree that the little devil in us usually comes out when we’re with our friends. We do things which will probably be treasured with us our whole lives. Shopping, snapping picture after picture together, going out for parties, teasing each other with crushes we all have, getting into trouble for talking during assembly or breaking school rules and most of all doing some of the stupidest things which you will later sit and laugh about. Yup, most the happiest moments in our life are spent with our friends.
Another very important thing about being a friend is forgiving. A true friend never stays mad at you for too long. This is either because they can’t live without talking to you or that they try to understand your mistake and even if they don’t they still defend you and will be there no matter what. They don’t just listen to rumors about you and do nothing to stop it, they fight for you. Why? It’s simply because they trust you and know that you’re always going to be honest with them. So in a vice versa situation, a friend is someone whom you can trust. Someone whom you can cry to without shame and tell all your deepest and darkest secrets knowing that the person is not going to utter a single word about it to anyone.
A friend knows you inside out and whenever you’re too quiet or feeling down in the dumps they know something is wrong and will do anything to cheer you up. Just a smile from you would brighten up their whole day because they know that they did something, anything to make you feel better. A friend is someone who is willing to give their last piece of bread to you even though their hungry. Someone who does you huge favors but never really expects anything in return. A friend is someone who could spend the whole night sleepless worrying about why you’re not talking to her or why you’re mad and thinks of ways to try making it up to you.
So you see, a friend can mean many things and different people may have different points of view but to me, these are what a friend means to me. How do I know all this? Simple. I have a friend and I am also a friend right back. My friend has given me all the things I need in a friend and in return, I give it right back. I am as grateful as ever for knowing a friend like her and for all the things that she has done for me. Our friendship is a memoir that I will want to cherish for the rest of my life. Who knows, maybe someday, when we’re really old and probably have nothing else to do other then sit on our rocking chairs, we’ll be talking about all the good times we had and still will have knowing that our friendship will never end.
oh and thank you so so so so much laura and beqah for printing it out for me at the very last minute. laura, i have your copy with me and i shall keep it forever. umm that is if i never loose it which i don't think i will. i hope. heh -.-' love ya loads <3
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